3. Tell yourself a true lie
Steve Chandler once wrote in one of his book that he remember when his 12-year-old daughter Margery participated in a school poetry reading in which all her classmates had to write a “lie poem” about how great they were.
They were supposed to make up untruths about themselves that made them sound unbelievably wonderful. He realized as he listened to the poems that the children were doing an unintended version of what Arnold did to clarify the picture of his future. By “lying” to themselves they were creating a vision of who they wanted to be.
It’s noteworthy, too, that public schools are so out of touch with the motivational sources of individual achievement and personal success that in order to invite children to express big visions for themselves they have to invite the children to “lie”.
Most of us are unable to see the truth of who we could be. Steve Chandler’s daughter’s school developed an unintended solution to that difficulty: If it’s hard for you to imagine the potential in yourself, then you might want to begin by expressing is as a fantasy, as did the children who wrote the poems. Think up some stories about who you would like to be. Soon you will begin to create the necessary blueprint for stretching your accomplishments.
Without a picture of your highest self, you can’t live into that self. Fake it ‘till you make it. The lie will become the truth.
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